Greetings all,
As I wrote
last week I would post my "secrets" of letter
writing to the list. I would not normally share this information
with the public at large because it pretty likely that a few of
those who read it could essentially lie to the ladies simply to
get the results.
Before you
go cutting and pasting, you really need to ask
yourself if the search for a foreign wife is for you. Do
you have ample disposable income and savings? More importantly,
do you have time to conduct a search, travel to meet women who would
like to meet you? Are you emotionally stable to the point where
you can remain rational when faced with fairly difficult situations
(NP - not seeing the person you want to be with for months)? If
you didn't think of all of this before you started, or you are currently
writing there is something for everyone here - read on.
You've decided
to write letters. Is your goal to write letters
or to find an ideal partner? Good. Then writing letters can
be an instrument that you can use proactively or passively. If you
are proactive, the laws of averages take effect and you can essentially
be guaranteed of success in identifying potentially very ideal partners.
Beyond this there is little value in letter writing. Those who write
letters passively are so rarely successful that we won't discuss
them.
You will read
a lot of conflicting information when you read various website owners
writing their own propaganda, just as I am doing. Keep in mind is
these agencies make a lot of money when you are writing letters,
some charge $5 -$10 a page for translations and $10 for a letter...
They will tell you "Write, Write a lot, write until you feel comfortable
(or whatever)" You get the picture.
The fact is
that the only thing letter writing can do
in the process of finding a wife is provide enough information
about a lady to allow you to evaluate if you both have enough interest
to meet. It's far too often I see folks write for months and months,
and then see everything fade away. It serves no purpose to anyone.
Letters can not replace meeting in person. I often ask some of our
better letter writers if they felt that letter writing for months
was as informative as meeting someone in person for a few hours.
You guessed it, a few hours can often tell much more.
There are a
lot of ways to go about this whole letter writing thing, I'll only
address one here, by no way the only.
How
Write Russian women and get 80% replies.
Everything
I describe is proven, and I recommend only the best, esp when it comes
to photographs. I don't recommend the Sears photo studio. A good photographer
will go though 1-2 rolls of film and come up with 3-5 really good
photos. These are the ones you want. If you don't want to pay the
$200 that a good photographer will want, go and take a few rolls of
yourself. Regardless, we'll want to have the negative handy. 80% of
the people reading this will disregard it and when they do they normally
send the following photos
Me
and my car
Me and my house
Me with my beer buddies at the bar
Me with my arms around some woman (regardless if she is a friend
etc)
Me in my office at my desk
Me with my 10 point buck
Me with my best friend "Rover" (well ..)
Those of you who think sending you and your BMW convertible is a
good picture are the same ones that wind up with a maxed out credit
card whining that she ran off the first guy with a Ferrari. The
photos should show you, and just you, don't use a photo with material
possessions to entice, you will probably regret attracting the wrong
type of girl. A few photos is best. Russian women put a lot of emphasis
on the eyes. I recommend a photo or 2 with a smile. A good face
shot is important. Remember, first impressions are the most important.
Photos
are not optional in my 80% reply method.
Now, go
grab your calendar and determine when you will have free time to travel.
If you are going the writing method of meeting pick a date about 3
months from the time you'll be ready to go visit the ladies you'd
like to meet. Perhaps there are something that you can do to spend
extra time, wind down a project, prepare employees or whatever. Think
the more time the better the end results. You'll want to plan on meeting
no less than 10-15 ladies. That may sound like a lot, but then again
why limit yourself. Writing letters should qualify the ladies and
provide you with quality contacts.
Now,
Grab you world Atlas, fire up your browser and start looking. Now
before you go writing someone in Krasnodarsky Krai, you might want
to look to see just where that is. You might look for ladies you
could easily meet.
How
many ladies you will write is very important. How many? 20 - 40
- 60 ladies. Which ones should you pick? Any you like. Funny,
the ladies who are the most beautiful often get the fewest letters.
(Just look at those shown below )
Don't be intimidated, it serves
no purpose. The more you write the larger your selection will be,
you will need to pick from those you write which ones you will meet.
Make your list of ladies, this will
require a fair amount of organization. You'll need more than just
their address you'll need what they wrote in their advertisement
(if they wrote it). It may just be best to print out everything
you can and make a folder do manage the information.
Start writing letters. The objective
of the introduction letter is to get a reply, get started corresponding.
The letter writing process is as much seduction as it is informative.
I have found the best way to write
letters is in a style I guess you could call romantic minimalism
The following letter was sent to
me as an example that would be sent to Evgenia. It's very typical,
therefore I will point out a few things here and give some suggestions
and at the end of this letter I'll go over how to take the same
person and get 80% replies.
Hello ________ :
With that
you lost it. Form letters are a great way to turn off a lady who might
just be the your ideal lady.
When
addressing Russian women you don't know, use the first and middle
name, you might use Dearest Lidiya Michailovna for example
"Greetings
from the USA! I found your profile on the _______web site. I found
you to be a most attractive and genuine woman so I am sending you
a note and a picture. I hope you will respond."
With
the first paragraph, you say nothing that she doesn't know. She
will figure out where to write you, you obviously liked her or you
would not have written and the last thing you need to say is I hope
you will respond.
The first part of your letter must
capture the attention of the lady you are writing. Think hard..
How can a guy capture the attention of a lady. Try a compliment
or 2.
"Dear
Tatyana Nicholiyevich,
Imagine how hard it must be for me to find a few words to start
a letter that might change the rest of my life. Since I saw your
photo and read your information on the internet, my mind has been
occupied with the impression you left on me. You are a very lovely
lady, your eyes, your lips, your warm smile. When I heard that men
from America could meet Russian women on the internet, I asked myself
why would they go all the way around the world to meet a lady when
there are so many fine ladies here. Now I understand completely,
and have decided that if the love of my life is in another country,
I'm in the wrong place."
This is
just an example,... Don't copy it, try to think of something yourself
or related to her. Perhaps she is in a nice red dress, or sitting
with a pet, try to personalize.
"My
name is Thomas ______ although most of my friends call me Tom and
my family calls me Tommy. I am 44 years old, 5 feet 10 inches tall
(1.78 meters) and 200 pounds (88.9 kilograms). I live just south
of Boston, Massachusetts in the region of the U.S. known as New
England."
This is
not what she really needs to know about you, not in the introduction
letter. No, in all reality what she needs to know is that you are
serious, not just looking for a toy and a housekeeper, that you're
not another penpal type who'll never come and so on.
"I am a decisive person, I make a decision and then carry it out.
I have decided that if I must go to Russia to meet a lady like you,
then I can do that. I have free to visit you on (travel date), I
have looked at my calendar and checked on a ticket. I am sure we
could learn much about each other in person. Don't you think this
is best? I am a very nice guy (at least I think so) and would love
the opportunity to get to know you better. I am seeking a true love,
a partner for life and someone to create a family with."
Say it
as you like, you'll want to make the point that your letter is sincere,
and you are planning to meet her if all goes well.
"I
am a high school science teacher of Biology, Chemistry, and Physics.
I have been doing this almost 19 years. I hold both a B.S. and M.S.
from the University of Massachusetts. I am not "rich" by most standards
but I consider myself very wealthy in the most important things
life has to offer ? health, family and friends. Teaching teenagers
is frustrating but the work is also steady, reliable, and rewarding.
I am in excellent health and physical condition; do not smoke cigarettes,
do illegal drugs, and very rarely drink alcohol."
Work,
income and so on are good letter topics later on. Quite often I see
people brag here. This is not the place. You might be Bill Gates himself,
here in your introductory letter you should remain humble and vague.
"I work in education, and enjoy my challenging work very much. I
am stable and could support you and our
family"
But think
about the flow of your letters, above we talk about who we are, then
about work, and then about family. This is probably better when we
are writing about ourselves a bit
"The
members of my family are the most important people in my life and
always have been. My religious background is Catholic but I have
no formal religious ties right now. My mother is alive but my father
died three years ago. I have four sisters and three brothers. All
of them with the exception of my brother James and myself are married
and have families. I have fourteen nieces and nephews. Your little
girl will never have trouble finding a playmate.
While God has never blessed me with either a wife or children I
do know how to love and honor a woman as well as cherish any child.
In spite of the fact I have been hurt and disappointed several times
I have never given up hope that I would one day find the right woman
to love and share my life with. I am extremely easy going but do
not tolerate what one might call the fatal A’s of relationships:
adultery, abuse, or addictions."
How
much of this information is needed. Is her concern that her little
daughter will have a playmate. Religion is noted as not being formal,
but then God doesn't bless you with a family. Past failures and
so on have no place in an introductory letter. You might be better
off addressing the issues that concern you.
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